When Moms mess up

JMJ 35  *Mistakes are part of being a parent, but after forgiving oneself, it is time to move on. “To err is human; to forgive, divine,” as Alexander Pope, an 18th century English poet, reflects.  I believe that includes forgiving oneself!

Ring the School Bell, 35/180 school days

Today I am confessing to a couple of mess-ups on my part.

I hate making “mom” mistakes, but being human, it is going to happen.  Melissa has been rehearsing magic tricks for weeks now, and decided to put on a magic show for the family. 

Melissa is very intense about whatever she does, and thinks in her little girl mind that it may evolve into a part-time job or career some day.  And who is to say that it couldn’t?  Seeds are planted and sometimes evolve into great things.  I could already envision her in the future as a magician at the Magic Castle, a local establishment comprised of professional magicians. 

She spent hours setting up the stage in the living room and called us in for the great event.  “Melissa the Magnificent” was ready to put on the show. Let the show begin! Our whole family was in attendance.  I found the show to be thoroughly engaging and amusing.  The magic tricks were well thought out, but I couldn’t get beyond the fact of how cute it all was, instead of putting on my “shock and awe” face.  I was giddy and giggled through much of the performance along with my two other daughters, not realizing that we were  upsetting her to the point of discouragement.

She never put on a show again, no matter how much I apologized and begged her to put on another magic show.  I have been forgiven, but I know I will never completely live that one down in my own mind.

Melissa the Magnificent Magic Show Flyer

The other regrettable mess-up involved a tot fence with flexible panels, which I thought I was done with.  I guess most people use these to keep their kids enclosed inside an area, but we never used it that way.  Instead we used it to keep our itty bitty girls away from the Christmas tree, with all of its hanging ornaments.  For a number of years we would encircle the tree with the tot fence, and it did serve its purpose.

When the girls grew up, I let a friend borrow it for a while, afterwards gave it to charity, then promptly forgot that I had given it away.  A few days ago, Melissa mentioned it would make a great pen for her bunny and I started looking for it, everywhere. Duh!  Soon I remembered what I had done, and once again seriously disappointed my sweet girl.  I am sorry Melissa.  I hope you will always remember that moms mess up sometimes too.

Here are a whole bunch of quotes to ponder on the topic of forgiveness:  https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/topics/topic_forgiveness.html

For the times forgiveness flows in the other direction, I thought this one was real sweet: The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness. –Honore de Balzac, French novelist and playwright

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** Note to the Reader- Today’s narrative is part of our family’s school journey from a few years ago, during my eldest daughter’s senior year in high school, a rather emotional year, with its many ups and downs.  Every day’s blog entry coincides with a day from that special year.  It can be read from the beginning by selecting the “Ring the School Bell 180” category on the side bar.  Commence with the narrative, “The School Bell- What comes to mind when ‘you’ hear that bell?” and follow along with us day-by-day through the school year.  Hope you will join us!

May God shower blessings on your family as he has on mine.    Annette





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